There are not many children who do not feel some kind of anxiety when they are saying goodbye to their mother or father. It is normal, and usually goes away as they get older. In some cases however, separation anxiety does not diminish as they grow, it sometimes gets worse.
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If your child suffers from separation anxiety there are a few things you can do to help them for the times when you are going to have to leave them somewhere and say goodbye. With some practice and patience you can make your goodbyes easier.
Starting a ritual can make the goodbye predictable and can often be comforting for anxious children. If they know what is coming and how it is going to happen they are often able to cope better. A goodbye ritual can be just blowing them a kiss from the doorway as you leave, or a making a silly face as you walk by the window.
If your child is anxious about your leaving, don’t drag it out. Bring them to their caregiver, say goodbye and tell them you love them and then leave the room. If you stick around trying to comfort them it will make the goodbye more difficult. It will also make it more difficult for you to say goodbye as well if you see they are upset.
If your child does well when you leave them, make sure to praise them and let them know they did a good job when you return. Again, don’t dwell on it, but give them some positive reinforcement and then move on to other fun things they did while you were gone.